My to do list is getting longer and nothing seems to be crossed off. I'm expecting a baby in a few weeks and I feel like I'm juggling and drowning simultaneously.
I often fight an internal battle of being present and enjoying the moment to just wanting to unload the dishwasher. I think it comes from my need to be organized and clean. I feel frustrated when my house isn't clean or the laundry isn't done. I feel best when I can enjoy time with my family in a well organized home. My struggle to keep clean and be in the moment is constant. In the end I do know that I will regret missing moments with my family if I'm too busy folding laundry in the next room.
After doing some soul searching and internet research I have decided to try 5 ways to be more mindful in my own life (and hopefully teach my daughter the same).
1.) Set a schedule. Say what?!? What does this have to do with being mindful? If I am a type A personality I need to embrace it. Setting a schedule and a time limit on my activities (cleaning, laundry etc.) I am able to step away from them and fully focus on the moments I want to be present with my family. I dedicate 15 minute increments throughout the day to getting things done and the rest of my day focused on the kid.
2.) Take away the electronics. We don't have cable and we don't have wifi so this one isn't all that difficult. I do find myself grabbing my phone and responding to texts right away. When I'm with my family I will be putting the phone away. It can be picked back up during nap, work time or after bed time.
3.) Take a few minutes each morning to wake-up and take in the day. I want to be mindful of what I have (and I have a lot) so each morning I'm dedicating 5 minutes to talk to my husband and daughter about what I'm grateful for in the coming day.
4.) Practice being mindful with my daughter. This one is tough (ya know cause my kid is one) but important to start. I feel like we rush from activity to activity in our house. Pick up, drop off, cook dinner, eat, bathe, books, bed. We are busy (just like everyone else) but I want to instill the practice of saying "we are here this is now and I am grateful."
5.) Practicing contentment. Perhaps the hardest one out there. I need to appreciate where I am in life. I want to be happy with today. Do I have dreams? Yes, lots of them. But I don't want to fixate on the future so much that I can't enjoy the present. I am sick of winter but saying so doesn't make it go any faster and saying it also makes me realize that it is changing my attitude everyday. I should be appreciating winter, it brings spring. I should be saying I love winter because it means I get to enjoy snow with my daughter, this is now this is a wonderful time in our life.
I'm not perfect and I'm certainly not mindful...but I'm working on it.